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Tears are Warm – THINK on that

Do you remember Gecko Hawaii shirts and other attire of the 1980s? Well, they are back. With the vintage shirts being seen in the great series Stranger Things, the sell of these retro surfer shirts are going through a revival.  Recently, I ordered one of their ‘hyperflash’ tees. We had a beach theme thing going and I decided to get one of these great tees that change from one color to another color by the warmth of the body.

It’s so cool, that these shirts see handprints, warmth and the shirt’s color is converted. Then, once cooled, it returns to the original color.

I wish life was kind of like this.  Wouldn’t it be great that if no matter what impacts us, we convert right back to where we started – no harm, no foul, no consequences. I’m jumping ahead.

My shirt is purple. And when it gets warmth touching it, the shirt turns pink. I didn’t order the pink one, but what I ordered was out of stock.  Nevertheless, I like what I received.  

Let me continue with my story. Today, when I was watching a tv show, a tear or two started to form in my eyes. Is seem to get a bit teary eyed these days at weird movies and tv shows. When Jack Ryan gets shot, or Jack Reacher loses a friend, Sheldon wins the Nobel, Shawn and Julia get together in Psych, or some other action flick has a bad turn … I get a little teary eyed. No real emotions just weird. However, today was something I had never really pondered.

I wiped the tear from my eye and then wiped the tear on to my t-shirt. Immediately, the shirt turned pink exactly where the tear touched it. 

Tears are warm!?

I tarted thinking, song lyrics … Tears in Heaven … Warm Tears, Cold Beers … which made me think of I’ve Got Tears in My Beer for Crying Over You. (Interestingly, most of these are all in country songs.)  Now, I don’t drink, never have. But it seems warm tears and cold beers wouldn’t co together.

I googled warm tears. There are interesting studies on why we shed tears, different kinds of tears, how some tears do have different temperatures, purpose of tears and more.  Too much for here. But the warmth of the tears are basically because the warmth of the body. 

I did think it was interesting that those who do cry are more emotionally healthy and those who cry are able to connect better.  So, there is that – but I still hate hugs. 

But in all of this, I begin to think about emotions and impact of emotions. I have them. We all do.

So I repeat … I wish life was kind of like these Gecko Hawaii shirts.  Wouldn’t it be great that if no matter what impacts us, we convert right back to where we started – no harm, no foul, no consequences. 

Don’t fake it but grow from it

But we do have consequences. We are impacted by emotions. So, let us do whatever we can to control and win the battle of our mind.  I ran across a simple acrostic that helped me in this battle – An acrostic to the word THINK.

THINK

T – Test every thought (Ps 139.23-34)
H – Helmet your head (Eph 6, guard your heart)
I – Imagine great thoughts (promises)
N – Nourish your mind
K – Keep on learning

We may never go back to the way before the emotions impacted us, but we can grow and be stronger.

And with that, every time I wear my Gecko shirt, I will remember to think about the battle of the mind!

What will you do when you get teary eyed?

Am I An Emotional Wreck?

I’m going to get a little vulnerable here. It all started when I began to cry.

Have you ever been watching a show … from The Dirty Dozen to Star Trek to Disney’s Onward … and just started to have tears flow? I don’t mean those chick flicks or even the Hallmark rom-coms. But the ones filled with action, explosions everywhere, where what flowed was less conversation and more spurting blood from where Wolverine sliced and diced everyone in the room.

Well, this past week I got hit a couple times. One was a spunky new SyFy series, Resident Alien, and another was during the binge watching of Mad About You. I dabbed my eyes and turned away from my wife. I didn’t desire to let her know how emotional it was hitting me.

I said I was tired. I blamed it on being trapped inside during the ice storm. I even said the hot tea I was sipping must have steamed up my eyes. I should’ve blamed Trump – he’s being blamed for everything else. But the real culprit is Oxytocin, or what has been called ‘the moral molecule.’

There was an experiment that showed watching an emotional moment, whether live or fiction like a movie/TV show, increases the level of oxytocin. And research shows 92% of people have been reduced to tears during at least one movie. The rest are psychopathic robots (I made that last line up.)

We enter the minds of others, we see the world through their story telling, and then oxytocin greatly improves our capacity for empathy.

Years ago, when Mel Gibson’s The Passion hit theaters, our church got permission to hand out small packets of Kleenex. We got thousands of little packets, labeled them with our church website, and stood at the doors handing them out. There was this one man, big, I mean big, Ving Rhames big, refused and said he doesn’t cry. Yeah, right. During the movie, as I stood one back at one of the critical dramatic moments, I heard sniffles, small sobs, and the such. But there, row 8 on the end seat, sobbing out loud and out of control … Mr I Don’t Cry himself. I took him a couple packets right then and there. And after the movie … he gave me a bear hug, a grizzly bear hug.

Tears make us more empathetic. Empathy is an important aspect of emotional intelligence. They help us relate to others. It opens our minds to understanding others. It is not a sign of weakness but of humanity. Even Jesus cried. So, if you cry at movies, you’re probably emotionally strong and relate well with people. And that’s not weakness.

Interestingly, it also makes us more generous and likely to give money to charity. And then be happier because we did give.

God bless our oxytocin … that chemical that fills us with empathy, altruism, and goodness of life.

Or, as one author puts it …

If the eyes are the window to the soul, tears are the Windex: They keep things in perspective.

J Haltwinger

So, I’m not really an emotional wreck. I’m human, and I feel. So I think I am going to turn on the Disney Channel and grab box of Kleenex. But I’ll do it while my wife is at work. I only go so far.


What movie or TV show makes you tear up? Or are you one of those psychopathic robots.?